What is Your Conflict Time Orientation?
The Past is Blame, Solutions are in the Future
When people are stuck in conflict, they are usually stuck in the past. Past experiences or pain shape how they perceive the present and how they respond to others. Discussions about current realities are often derailed when one party brings up unresolved past events that are not always relevant to the present.
A key to resolving conflict is to be in the present to shape the future you want. What happened yesterday is not as important as what you want to have happen tomorrow. While you may disagree on what really happened yesterday, the reality is that neither party can change it. It is possible, however, to change what you create in the future.
If you are stuck in a conflict, try to let go of the past and get clear on what you want to create in the present and the future. While letting go can be hard, hanging on to the past can be even harder.
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